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MyStory: My terrible secret

Moving out stopped the abuse

I grew up with my mum and her boyfriend. I had a good life. But then he started abusing me. He started raping me.

At first I didn’t understand what was happening. I was only nine years old!. I was shy and it was really hard for me to open up. I kept it a secret for 7 years.

I made up a reason to move out when I was 16 because the abuse became too much. I went to live with my grandmother who was a marriage counsellor. I never went out and I didn’t tell her what happened.

But then she started asking questions.

“Why did you leave home?” she asked.

I started crying. I told her about how my stepfather sexually abused me. She was there for me and helped me report him.

I thank God for being with me throughout the journey. My advice is that no matter the abuse - small or big - you need to tell someone. Ask for help before it eats you up like it did to me. I should not have suffered for so many years.

Did you know that most rapists or abusers are actually somebody you know? Moving out into safe house is one way to make it stop. Another way is to tell someone you trust. Sharing your secret is hard but important to make the abuse stop.

This story was written by a Tune Me community member.

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Anonymous

I for one was sexually abuse 3times by different people i never got the chance to live as a virgin.I was raped at a tender age of about 7year to 13year. I never got the chance to even tell anyone about which has caused an effect in my life i dont see myself good enough to be loved Almost everyone I got to be intimate with leaves me once we do sex our relationship doesnt even take a week and it fades away

5 days, 13 hours Ago Report

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Tune Me Moderator

Dear User, Thank you for seeking advise from us. It is worth nothing that, what has happened to you is not your fault and for that you should not feel ashamed. I would like to recommend a counselling session, where you can talk to a health professional so you are able to move past your experience. It is not your fault that when you have sex with someone, they walk away from you. It is more of a problem about them than it is about you, don't allow guilt and shame to lead your life. You are worth more than what you have experienced. We would like to facilitate a counselling session for you.

3 days, 19 hours Ago

Miyanda31

.....continuation to friends who don't know how to help you and eventually leave it at that.

3 months Ago Report

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